THE KIWI WHO SOARED THE SKIES...

            "If you love a person, set him/her free. If he/she comes back, then he/she is yours. If he/she doesn't, he/she never was."

Okay. First of all, this is about LOVE. If you're sick and tired of the stories, entries, etc. about the said topic then just stop reading right at this point.

Now, I will assume that you're quite interested with what I have to say because you continued reading. So let's start of with the definition of love. What the heck is love anyway?

"Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection and attachment," according to Wikipedia;

"It is an unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for others," defined by the Merriam-Webster's Dictionary and Thesaurus;

"It can't be explained by any theories or reasons," speculated by Science;

And "it can never be calculated (of course)," stated by Mathematics.

Next question is: why do you fall in love with a person?

One person may say that "it's because he/she was so kind to me." Another may say that "it's because he/she made me feel comfortable and secure when I was in catastrophe." Another one may state that "it's because they had known each other for a very long time that's why we understand each other well." These are just some of the possible answers when you ask a random person the question that I am discussing but have you ever heard a person with an answer "I don't know?" (Thinking it's corny? Think again.)

If you have a reason why you fell in love with a certain person, then what would happen if that reason disappears? Wouldn't you fall out of love? Falling in love with a person shouldn't have any reasons, if that is "true" love. I know some of you are disagreeing right at the moment you've read that statement but think of this: if you loved a person because of a reason, then you don't love the person at all. You just like his/her qualities. Why? You loved the reason (his/her qualities), not the person.

Now, if you don't have any reason why you fell in love, don't you think it would be troublesome?

YES, it would be.

Look at this: if you have a reason and that reason disappears, then you can already fall out of love, end of story, but what if you don't have any reason that would disappear to let you fall out of love?

The answer to that is experiencing pain.

In a relationship in which love is in its center, we would really experience misunderstandings. With this, we would be hurt because, we're all different persons that's why whether we like it or not, even if we love a person, we would dislike/hate some of his/her qualities but if you're really serious with the said relationship, you should accept that fact that the person we love can never be the definition of our "perfect" man/woman. Loving him/her is accepting everything about him/her and making him/her the "perfect" one for us. "True" love would make you obstinate and irrational that's why despite of being in pain and being hurt, we still continue to love that person. Now, do you get it why people say that love and pain comes in pairs?

Then, how much pain should we endure? (Why am I asking this? It's because you might think that "true" love should be taking all the pain.)

The answer is: it is up to you. We have different ways of thinking as well as emotional capacities. Some may break up with you already because of situations that are intolerable for him/her. It would hurt VERY much when one decides to end your relationship just because of this (but please don't question his/her love for you. As I've commented a while ago, "true" love doesn't mean taking all the pain especially if you're beyond your limit.) When faced in this situation, two options would always be available for you. One is to be a persistent fool and continue to be arrogant; one that he/she would be considering as obsession and not love anymore (people have different perspectives in obsession. Some don't consider it as love but actually, it is just extreme love overshadowed by selfishness). Or just let go. "If it already hurts you so much then just let go," as said by my friends.

"Let go."

It's very funny how a very short word can be so hard to put into action. It may even surpass the ever-trusted quote "if there's a will, there will always be a way," if you're obstinate enough.

Can't let go? It's not his/her problem so set him/her free first. He/she still has the right to choose how to live his/her life. You can't choose what he/she should choose. He/she is not your puppet.

After doing what is right, choose whether to hold on for a while and stay as friends (even though I know you won't treat him/her as a "friend" even if you're just treated as such. *wink*) or isolate yourself from her. Both would make you feel hell but which one is better to choose? Whether you believe me or not, it's better to hold on for a while. It's a tormenting like the other, but it would provide you a very small amount of happiness, so it's still worth it (martyrdom? Well, if that's how you want to think of it, then so be it.) You don't have to rush things. You'd know when to give up being a "martyr" anyway. It would directly hit you in the face. So if you have time to worry about letting go, why not worry yourself with other things instead? Trust me on this. Just continue to love him/her like there's no tomorrow. Who knows, what you're doing may touch his/her heart and everything might end well.

If he/she wants to be freed, set him/her free. If he/she comes back, he/she is YOURS. If not, he/she NEVER WAS.